“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” Mother Theresa.
I thought I would be unique and use a quote for my profile. Please don’t think I’m a Mother Theresa fanatic but she makes a lot of sense. I’ve been touch and go with the idea of online dating. I just haven’t had much luck with it in the past but thought I would give it a try again. I think the problem with online dating is it can tell you what a person looks like, what they have accomplished, what their interests are and what they are looking for but it can’t tell you anything about chemistry. I think the chemistry between two people is important.
In my dating experience the question I have been asked most by women is this. “Why have you never been married?” My answer is simply this:
I’ve not been fortunate enough to meet the right one for me yet. I have learned a lot in my 38 years about love and life through my past relationships and the relationships of others. I have learned mostly that people get married for the wrong reasons. I think most people end up getting married because of money and status (for appearances), to have kids and due to the fear of being alone. They then believe what they have is love for each other. It isn’t until years later when there are kids and bills to pay that the closeness these couples used to share starts to fade. They then become unhappy and even jaded. They disconnect which usually results in infidelity which in turn creates a crisis in the marriage that ends in embarrassment and more than likely the end of the relationship. Based on statistics, this happens 60% of the time. These kind of marriages end up hurting a lot of people. I believe a relationship should be founded on attraction, mutual respect, communication, shared interests, and trust. I think this is the formula for true love that lasts forever and I believe in this and have held out for nothing less. I have learned that in the end if you don’t marry out of true love, one day, you will seek it or it will find you because of your unhappiness. I don’t want to be a statistic. I’d rather be alone forever than to hurt my kids or anyone else.
My quote merely suggests the reality that no one is perfect. I’m definitely not perfect but when you love someone you will see an imperfect person perfectly if you give them the chance. I’m just hoping to meet someone who believes in the love I believe in and hope to have one day. It should only be about love.