Hello there all you match.com gentlemen looking for that lucky new girl!
My name is Rachelle, and I just wanted to tell you all that I found my boyfriend using this site, and that I am very happy with him.
While I have tried to deactivate my account, I still get many emails and winks, so I thought that I would change not only my profile picture and tell you that I was over 8 feet tall and overweight and 90 years old, but would also inform you all in my 'about me' section, that I am no longer available. I mostly, I just wanted to wish you luck.
If you continued reading after that initial opener,
I will share with you what I learned along my match.com journey:
I went on more then a couple of dates to meet this man.
Those dates ranged from those who had potential, and those who not.
Women will be the same way.
My advice to you is to not just launch yourself into going on as many dates as possible with many different women hoping that something will come out of it, but to take your time with the email process. I am horrible with email, but, it ended up being the best way to get to know a stranger.
Okay: First dates with a stranger.
Reread your emailed conversations.
And go anyway
Come up with some fun questions to ask them from those conversations and their profile, maybe even their pictures.
It is easier for someone to tell you about something regarding themselves.
Next, come up with some fun stories, or fun facts about yourself.
Prepare yourself for the first date conversation, it is up to you to make it a good experience for both you, and her.
Near the end of this first date, decide if you would like another date.
If you do, make sure that YOU ask her...it is odd for women to do the asking..just trust me here.
I have this theory that women will appear too forward to men if they ask you, after all, its not as though dating from a website has been around long, and its guidelines are not as progressive as today's naturally evolved dating structure.
Next: regarding the second date.
Whatever you do, do not reschedule.
If it is an emergency and last minute, reschedule with her as soon as possible, and apologize.
The girl will feel blown off, and will move on to looking around this website.
And you not only wasted and lost your time and efforts (and possibly the girl you liked), but you probably paid for the first date too. '
If anything, see your loss of investment.
Bottom line, don't be a flake.
If the girl reschedules on you, and does not come up with another time for you two to meet again..
Take that as a polite hint to continue looking around this site.
I hope when you reach the second date that you will feel comfortable enough with the girl to go on without any advice, but I have just a couple more things I could share with you regarding the match.com process:
Try not to date too many girls at once, it simply gets confusing.
Not only is it easy to get details mixed up, but it makes it hard to make a connection when you are so very spread out.
Understand me when I say that I am not a scorned women by saying that, but a women that found it hard to keep those details together myself when trying to go on a couple of dates with different guys.
Oh! I almost forgot, and this is a very important detail:
Your pictures, please have more then one.
Please let those photos CLEARLY show your face.
Too many of you have pictures where you are involved in a sport where you can not see your face.
The simple rule among girls quickly becomes, if I can't see your face, I don't know who I am talking to, and you will simply become one of her many unopened or unanswered emails.
The next thing about your photos: group pictures are nice, but, all group photos leave a girl guessing which member of the group that you really are.
LAST a picture of your pet is nice, but have one. Trust me.
Best of luck gentlemen!