"And Those Who Were Seen Dancing Were Thought To Be Insane By Those Who Could Not Hear The Music." I have always liked that quote because it reminds me of those rare times when you have met someone awesome and you are so into each other you that your are mostly oblivious to everyone else around you; which is kind of the whole point of this exercise. Isn't it?
I think I would describe myself as a nice guy with an edge. What does that mean? I don't complain about a lot of stuff, I call when I say I am going to call (and call before I text), I love to plan trips, I pride myself on gift giving, I rarely break my committments, I love being a dad and can be relied on by my friends to analyze problems and come up with a sensible game plan. But if you say something silly or lame, a sarcastic remark will likely follow. Very few topics are off limits and, when I get to know you, inappropriately funny and politically incorrect comments are not uncommon. Don't get scared. I will say that over the years I have learned how to make sure that my sarcasm is not condescending or rude and I never allow it to get in the way of making a real connection with someone. My only hope is that you will say something equally sarcastic back, out of which witty banter may ensue.
As for the particulars about me, I have a great group of friends from college (UCLA) and law school (USC). I am attorney for a television studio, which I enjoy quite a bit, and allows me to live a comfortable lifestyle. Does that sound douchey? I hope not. I have a beautiful 4 year old daughter who can only be described as "rad." As an aside, I am trying to bring the term "rad" back into the lexicon of contemporary slang. On the weekend, I could just as easily be coaching boys soccer, going to a Kings or Lakers game (well maybe not this year), checking out a cool art exhibit as I could seeing a documentary or going to see Tiesto, Edward Sharpe, Fitz the Tantrums, Muse or Mumford and Sons when they come to town.
As for my ideal match, I don't think it is very helpful for me to say I am looking for someone that is really attractive, smart, nice and likes to travel. While that might be true, anyone who reads this will have no idea whether they are good match. Plus, it's just boring. Perhaps, a better way is to say I am looking for a woman who: (1) can engage in witty banter or is sarcastic; (2) is a professional or is in a career they like; (3) is feminine, which in no way means submissive; and (4) likes dancing to cheezy 80s/90s songs (think Rick Spingfield, Journey, Billy Joel, Bon Jovi, but not YMCA and Kool and the Gang), but also like live music -- e.g. coldplay, black keys, kings of leon, arcade fire, killers, etc.; (5) is comfortable in a number of settings whether it be tailgating with friends at a football game, going out for a nice night on the town or having to be charming (even if somewhat insincere) at work functions; and (6) loves Christmas. Of course, none of these are hard and fast requirements or potential deal breakers. I guess it just gives you a better idea of who I am and who I am looking for generally.
Bonus points for those who are into sports (Lakers, Kings, Angels and UCLA), Scuba (looking for someone to go to the Red Sea, Belize, Palau and the Great Barrier Reef with), the city of Paris (I am jonesing to go back), NPR, politics (I like discussing and debating, but I don't need to be right) and history (it's just interesting).
Finally, while I would never pretend that photos are not important to a profile, what people actually write in a profile is what gets me. It has the potential (not always) to tell me what kind of personality you have. In fact, unless I can come up with something interesting to say or the best message I can think of is "Hi" or "I really, reallyreally found you profile interesting," then I won't send an email.