I suppose I'm a little bit of a contradiction in terms - I'm sure I come across as extroverted, but at the same time I know myself to be quite cerebral and focused. I am as content listening to old school hip-hop while going for a run as I am sitting quietly for hours reading, writing and doing research.
I know that life isn't long, but it certainly is WIDE - and so I love the idea of exposing myself to as much of it as possible - and as such, I think that curiosity, interest, and passion go a long way.
Intelligence is sexy, funny is sexy, confidence is sexy, and well... sexy is sexy.
We're all a bit mad, a bit eccentric, and whether we like to admit it or not, we all come with some baggage - but the ability to laugh at ourselves and our foibles is invaluable and certainly mitigates a lot.
The older I get, the more I'm amazed at how little it really takes to be happy, to have fun, and to enjoy yourself. (I attribute that lesson to experience, and my daughter - who, as far as I can tell, is made of magic and cupcake frosting.)
By the way, in the event that some of this may sound a bit metaphysical - I can assure you I'm much more apt to be channeling Bugs Bunny than the Budha (although they both have their strong points and probably would have probably gotten on famously).
But I digress... ultimately, I guess it's this simple: have a listen to Frank Sinatra singing "I get a kick out of you" - I'd like to meet someone who can feel that way about me, and who would be equally delighted to have me feel that way about them.
And while I don't like to discriminate on the basis of geography, I've found it impossible to date anyone who doesn't live in Manhattan or Brooklyn.
Good luck to all.
(NOTE: I'm also not a big fan of the "wink" - it sort of makes me feel "cheap and easy".)