In the past few months I keep meeting couples that seem to be doing it right who met on this website, and they have inspired me to try it.
Like many of us, I'm past the stage of wanting to "hook up" for some fun. While I love having fun, I'm committed to looking for that one special person, where the sparks fly AND we connect with each other on a deeper level, AND it is someone who is both young at heart and playful like me, and yet mature enough to be ready to really appreciate and value how special, amazing and valuable a good relationship is in life, and is willing to put some work into building a deep, life-long relationship based on love, respect, mutual support, and the courage of openness in order to deepen the bond and build trust and togetherness.
Okay, I acknowledge that's a lot to be looking for, but that's the ideal for me. And, yes, it's taken me perhaps too long to get there myself, but it's now so clear to me that I can only be steadfast committed to finding/creating that with someone who wants the same and is willing to work at building it together with me as her partner.
I still believe in the magic of chemistry and the fairytale of falling in love, but I've come to understand that that's only half the equation. The sparks and burning passion need to be fed and nurtured over time by a deeper kind of conscious, aware, purposeful, nurturing, mature love that takes courage, commitment and real work of practicing new aways of relating and communicating in order to build. And it's not all dull work, I have seen some very inspiring examples of how much fun (and how romantic) building that kind of a life together can be!
I apologize if my profile is a bit sparse. I've been advised to not put too many details as there are some people using dating sites less than honestly. Also, some of the profile questions are a bit limited in the answer options. For example, the options for children don't allow me to explain that while I am blessed to have two amazingly special children in my life from prior relationship who will always be very important to me (not my blood, but still son and daughter in my heart forever), I would still like to have children with the right person, but only if she really wants that too.
Thank you for reading my profile, and I'm happy to answer any questions or fill in details as you like.
I wish you the best success in your quest for romantic happiness and partnership.