I love to surf and I'm seeing more and more that surfing is a metaphor for life. You can't over power the ocean; you have to go with the flow and stay focused on the moment. True surfing is finding inner peace and harmony with all things. Surfing is a type of controlled surrender to the power of the ocean and I think an effective way to live is a controlled surrender to the power of life. I've read dozens of profiles on here and they all seem to say almost the exact same thing worded in different ways. They all go something like this, "I believe in being positive. Family is very important to me and I am very supportive towards my friends and family. I'm goofy/funny and have a sarcastic side. I am very loyal and expect the same from others. I am very active and love many sports and outdoor exercise activities. I am outgoing, ambitious an hardworking and I love my job. I love to travel and see new places and I like adventure. I am honest and I have integrity. I am careful about the people I surround myself with, but I am not judgmental. I am looking for someone who has all of these qualities and is a gentleman and has a sense of humor and can joke but also knows when to be serious. And I want someone to appreciate me for who I am." Ok I feel like someone is selling something here and I guess that's what we're all here to do, to convince others to take an interest. I'm not sure about this approach, I don't want to sell anything. I'm a living thing and I'm here with the rest of you just living life. I don't have any expectations, it would just be nice to meet someone to learn things from and have a good time I'll tell you something real, my life is challenging, Am I negative about it? Yeah sometimes I am. I respond negatively to disappointment. No I'm not all beaming smiles and positive wisdom when hard work and hopes are dashed to pieces. But I don't stay that way for too long and the older I get the better I'm getting at it. The positivity of essence as opposed to naive and foolish optimism is an achievement worthy of a lifetime and I have witnessed it in myself only in the fleeting moments of self awareness that happen at pivotal moments in my life. If i'm insensitive, and it has been known to happen, it's because I'm in my own head about something trivial in the grand scheme of things and I need a swift kick in the butt which life itself seems quite willing to provide more often and more effectively then other individuals. Once that happens I'm sweet as they come attentive and learning the lessons as they come and less likely to fall unconscious again the next time. Most men are perverted nymphomaniacs even if they try to hide it behind civility and charm, and I am a man but I've reached the realization that sex is better when you really know someone and care for them. At the core of intimacy is the never ending exploration of yourself and who you're partner is. Basically I'm not perfect and probably never will be. I'm a pit bull that wont quit though, and I respond to pain with thought not just blind anger and resistance so I've made some progress in my life. If you're looking for perfect your not going to get it here girl sorry, but I'll give my best that's all I can promise.