When you say you’re looking for a good guy...I'm an Eagle Scout, literally. But there are pictures from college and Vegas that make me unelectable for any high office.
I don’t want to waste your time (or mine) on things you may find unacceptable that are unlikely to change. My #1 job is being a dad to two daughters (11 and 7). I’m committed to getting out there again, but my time tends to be limited. I haven't been a single dad for that long and I'm still getting a handle on it so I might require patience with scheduling. The kids spend the night at my place over 50%. I'm free Thur. and Fri. nights & every other weekend. Sadly, living in So. Cal., traffic patterns are an influence on dating prospects. Sad but true...
There’s a lot about the early stages of wooing that may have changed since I did it last (like cell phones, texting, online dating, the fact that I can legally drink now, the millenium, etc.) I’m usually a fast learner, but my apologies in advance if you find yourself at the left-hand side of that learning curve. On the other hand, my naivete could probably provide you with some hilarious stories, so there is a plus side. Sure, you could wait until I get the kinks out, but do you want to risk it?
I'm not coming to this with the idea that every woman I meet has to be "The One." I look at each meeting as a chance to learn about someone as well as myself. If it doesn't end up getting serious, I'm ok with that. That’s NOT code for “I’m a player” looking for hookups, flings, affairs and one-night stands; I've been in a long relationship and I plan to be again. Right now, I will take friends with potential over friends with benefits. My current plan is to experience dating. I may create a t-shirt that reads, “I survived online dating.” But if I’m going to wear it, I feel I have to earn it.What I’m looking for: an activity partner, a woman that I can share enjoyable experiences with or that can make what might be a mediocre experience, enjoyable because of her company. I want to marvel in our common interests but not be lulled into complacency by them. It is just as important to be fascinated by our differences. I love learning new things and that includes learning about people. I want to find out what makes you laugh and cry, the best ways to put a smile on your face after a rough day, and learn all the stories of what makes you the person you are today. Kindness and understanding go a long way for me. But I also want someone who will challenge me and asks the hard questions. The kind that make me learn something new about myself. In the end, I want someone who will “get” me and considers herself lucky to have me. Sometimes I feel that may be a tall order, but I know there’s a quirky girl out there waiting to be found.7 quick tidbits about me: 1) I’m kind of geeky, I enjoy doing logic puzzles for fun and a “guys’ night” for me may consist of a heated battle of Trivial Pursuit with my buddies. 2) I’m easy-going, even in a deadline-oriented business I’m not one to panic. 3) I’m stable, I’ve worked at my current company for over a decade. I don't live with my mom. I wouldn't think that would need to be stated but reading some women's profiles, maybe it does. 4) I love new experiences, if you ask “hey you wanna’…” you have a good chance of getting a yes from me. 5) I’m absent-minded. When I leave the house, I come back 2 or 3 times because I’ve forgotten something. My kids often do a countdown when I leave to see how long it takes until I come right back. I lose things all the time. They always turn up, but usually after I’ve looked in crazy places like the barbeque or something. 6) I’m not flashy, so don’t expect me to drive up in a sports car. I drive a mini-van and I would never recommend that you sit anywhere in it but next to me. I have no idea what kind of disasters have occurred beyond the front seats. 7) I also tend to over-share so I’ll end here before I give up all my mystery. Any questions?