(Some people have commented that I seem bitter based on this profile. Nothing could be further from the truth. So imagine me smiling as you read what I have to say).
I don’t believe in online dating but I do believe in online meeting. I’m under the strange impression that you can only figure out whether you “like” someone when you’re face to face. This process of writing an email to a woman that “sparks my interest” poses the problem of me having to find an engaging way of saying no more than “you seem interesting and attractive, I’d like to meet.” Since I have a problem with being disingenuous these initial emails prove to be even more of an obstacle. It doesn’t help that that every attractive woman on a website like this one is bombarded with emails, winks, and the like. So I’ve decided to change things up. I had a pretty typical profile before: I like this, don’t like that. I’m looking for a woman who’s fun and outgoing yet calm natured (I actually wrote that). I love food and traveling (yah that’s a differentiator). Blah, blah, blah…
So if my profile is to be atypical, then what should it say? Well, allow me to first address the most logical question: Why am I here? If I don’t believe in online dating then why am I on Match? Well, let’s call it an experiment; An attempt to fill a need in my life. You see, I honestly don’t have much trouble meeting women. My issue is that I am not meeting the right women – the kinds of women you would consider making babies with, growing old with, building a life with. I’ve been out of my womanizing stage for a long time. I want something real but I keep meeting the same types of woman. Either intelligent, wholesome and boooring OR fun, interesting and craaaazy (in a bad way). I want a HEALTHY mix of both and thought that I might get lucky on match.
The last thing I’ll mention is actually a proposition. I propose that we don’t take this online dating thing too seriously, or better yet we don’t take dating all that seriously. What I mean is that 2 people should be able to chat, grab a cup of tea, take a walk, whatever, without having to stress out about it. They either want to see each other again or they don’t. I don’t find online rejection or rejection after one encounter to be something that should be taken personally.
Any questions?
Lastly some info about me:
-I have an active lifestyle: rarely watch TV, work out regularly, like to get outside often, and regularly explore different neighborhoods, and restaurants.
-I'm casual (aka: not fancy). I believe in comfort and keeping things low maintenance so I can have more time to focus on the more important stuff in life. With that said I can get GQ when the time is right.
-I try not to worry about upholding an image for others or fitting in. I think it's fun to be different and I appreciate the uniqueness of others.
-I love to learn. That's why I love to explore. I read a lot, watch quality films, record 60 minutes, ask a lot of questions, etc.
-I drink tea, not coffee. I like meat but I enjoy a great salad equally as much. I deeply respect vegetarians and people who live according to their beliefs.
-I am not religious. I prioritize morality and intelligent decision making over what religious category one falls under.
-I am able to be friends with women even my ex-girlfriends. Even after they get married!
-I like people that talk a lot.
I'm done.
Joe
