MY COMMITMENT... I am very serious about being with someone I am passionately in love with. How that happens, I have yet to see. I would love to have that instant spark upon meeting him, at the same time I recognize the best of relationships can also develop in its own time from a friendship to a "friendship gone marriage."
WHAT THAT MEANS TO YOU... First, I wish to thank those of you who reach out to me with an email or a wink. I do appreciate your interest. As much as I would love to respond to each email I receive, it just isn't practical. Because I am taking this process seriously, I am only responding to those who I can see as a potential match (a match to me, and a match to you). Therefore, please know that your emails are appreciated regardless of whether you get a response or not. So THANK YOU AGAIN!!!
MY IDEAL RELATIONSHIP (in no particular order).......
1- SPIRITUAL CONNECTION (I am a very spiritual person....you might call me religious or you might not. The spiritual connection I share (or build) with someone is personal to that relationship, so it's something we would define together. What I can say though is that I can only imagine a relationship with a strong spiritual element - I cannot imagine it without).
2- MENTAL/EMOTIONAL CONNECTION (I enjoy good mental stimulation and emotional exchange, such as engaging conversation, strategizing win-win's to honor ourselves as individuals and as a couple, or even the simple everyday interaction that just FEELS good and puts a smile on your face and an amazing joy in your body).
3- SEXUAL CONNECTION (The keyword here is DESIRE. Must have a mutual desire to kiss and know).
4- RESPECT, HONOR and MUTUAL ADMIRATION (This to me is the soul of any relationship. Respect and honor for both yourself and the other person brings fulfillment like you would never know).
5- LOTS OF FUN and LAUGHTER (I love to laugh, although you need not be a comedian. As long as I can enjoy laughing when I am around you, we're good! And the relationship has got to be fun too....whether we are actually doing something fun, or doing something as mundane as folding laundry)!
6- FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITY (I loooveee the finer things in life. At the same time, I respect my bank account, and therefore only spend what's in it).
7- COMMITMENT (Commitment for me is being your best, and doing your best. People talk about having a relationship that is 50/50. I don't want that kind of relationship. I desire a 110/110 relationship, made up of 2 people giving all they have, and striving to become more, to give more, to love more. When you have this kind of commitment in a relationship, you are connected to your heart, and the amount of confidence that brings to your love/relationship is immeasurable).
If these ideals speak to you, maybe we should talk. Let me know a little about you and your ideals and/or what spoke to you about what I shared.
PS - A note about actual dating:
As mentioned, I am very committed to only spending time with someone who could possibly be my match. So if at any point it appears we are not a long-term match (as amazing as you could be), I prefer to recognize it for what it is, and not force anything. Therefore, because I respect myself and respect others, if we meet, and IF I AM SO LUCKY TO BE INVITED for a second, third, or fourth or fifth, or sixth, or seventh (you get the picture - LOL) date, and I don't think it's going anywhere, I will politely let you know upfront. It's not my policy to leave anyone hanging. We are all here for the same reason....to connect with our ideal match.