Yesterday is gone and tomorrow is promised to no one. I always try to make every moment count and be genuinely in the moment. Spontaneity but with responsibility (I don't like hurting anyone's feelings if I can avoid it).
I don't talk around corners. Communication, commitment and loyalty are extremely important to me. I do not, will never, sleep around. When I am in a romantic relationship, I am in that relationship and no other. Fooling around, wedding vows or no wedding vows, is for me a deal-breaker.
Laughter, love (and lovemaking!), talking and keeping up to date with my partner are vitally important to me. I have a healthy, non-puritanical attitude toward lovemaking. Sex is joyful, restorative and good. Physical and emotional intimacy and well-being depend absolutely each upon the other. Sex is not a system of rewards and punishments, and I will not remain with a partner who uses it in this passive-aggressive manner.
To sum up: be real. Be mine really and truly, and you will never need doubt that I feel exactly the same way.
...and also about the one I am NOT looking for. If anything I have to say below offends you or is just too forthright, then simply pass on by: we are not for each other.
You must be a woman so at peace with yourself that you want, as opposed to need, to share your precious time with me. Do you have a big space in your life for a man who is passionate, a communicative straight-talker, yet extremely fun and funny?
Do you agree that constantly harping on the faults of your partner is not an effective means of addressing your own? You must be convinced that doing nothing, saying nothing, when there are problems (real or merely perceived) is a guarantee of disaster ahead.
When you say "yes" do you really mean yes, and is "maybe" not in your vocabulary? "No" is not always the answer one wishes to hear, but at least it is honest: "maybe" personalities need not apply. The same goes for "yes-buts". Diffidence and indecisiveness are serious turn-offs.
I do not need a woman to "mold" me into her vision of what a man should be. I already have a firm idea of who I am and how I wish to continue improving on the design. So, too, should you, and we will help each other, naturally altering in ways that mutually gratify and benefit us
Music is the great passion of my life. Composing, performing, listening. Diverse listening tastes. Little will shock me (though it may or may not interest me - case by case). I devote a great deal of time to music, and I can seem quite unavailable at those times, especially when I am creating. I go into the "zone" but that doesn't mean you can't intrude a bit. Put a hand on my shoulder, give me a peck on the neck, call me back to the land of the living. I'm not going to snap, "not now, I am composing my magnum opus!" The music is always there when I go back to it. People are sometimes not there when you get back to them...
The other thing is my devotion to the boardgaming hobby. These are NOT mind-numbing, addictive and relationship-destroying computer games, but actual physical games played on a table. They have strategic and/or tactical depth and structure. I will not give up playing my games because someone (you, for instance) thinks they are silly or is simply not into them. Having said that, though, I am firmly aware of the relative importance of relationships vis-?-vis playing games (games win, of course - ha, just kidding).
If you want me, then you want me warts, music, games and all. Otherwise pass on...
