Revisiting my profile after 8 months on online dating and the fun, despair and boredom that it entailed. As an update, I just wanted to add that I'm looking for a honest woman with a intellect and a spark that is contagious. Equally important is the fact that I'm not looking for someone so desperate to have a child that a first date becomes a sort of interrogation. (For the record, I am open to having another child when and if I get remarried, but that wouldn't happen in next twelve months--for a multitude of reasons.)
Back to my original (slightly edited) profile:
I believe in the old-fashioned art of dating -- but that doesn't mean I'm traditional.
I believe in opening doors for a woman as well as walking her to the car at the end of an evening out.
I believe my personality to be a healthy synthesis of cynicism and naivete, despite the obvious problems that causes in life...
I believe that online dating is potentially a great thing, since it's the first time I've done it and I'm desperately trying to stay positive. The difficult thing for me is that I loathe shopping and online dating, in essence, is nothing more than shopping for a potential date. Since the positives outweigh the negatives, I shall somehow gather the strength to suffer through the images and words of a multitude of beautiful, intelligent and fascinating women...
Pros: I'm honest to a fault--to the point where I originally listed myself as two years younger to allow a larger pool of potential dates, but guilt overtook me and I just changed it to the accurate number. I also must admit that I am 5'11 3/4, not 6'0, but I've been told that listing it as such is an acceptable thing.
I love films (and movies -- and, yes, there is a difference as pretentious as that might sound), books (having once worked in publishing, although that's not the reason), art, hiking, bicycling, traveling, walking and breathing oxygen (among other things, mostly not of the life and death variety). I also love my seven-year-old son (who lives with me 50% of the time) more than I can possibly express in words.
Cons: I sometimes allow my self-deprecating behavior to take over. I'm working on fixing this issue, along with a multitude of other problems. (I used to mock this kind of admission, but I've learned that if one isn't actively working on bettering themselves in some capacity, they are likely in denial. And, yes, I am willing to mock myself for actually being willing to type and post that last sentence.)