i seem to be composed of a series of opposites, all true at various times. i am a seeker of truth and a lover of fine bourbon. i want to dance through this life. "i'm looking for somebody with whom to dance". i realized as I was uploading photos that most of them are of me having fun! no pictures of me at work or at class, giving serious presentations, etc... those would be boring. I do have a serious side, promise. there are lots of dimensions to me. as humans we are pretty complex right?
I also realized that I didn't put the standard traits on here that most people do, like: I am kind, respectful, i love community, i value clear communication, i love my family (including my cat), i can hang with the guys just as well as have my circle of woman friends, i don't like watching sports and don't tend to date guys who devote time to watching football, etc.... I am artsy, lighthearted for the most part but can also be pensive and over analytical. i am particular about things, can be impatient when people move too slowly in their day to day, i tend to like the most expensive things whether it be drinks, food, chocolate, places to visit, etc. Being a grad student I have had to put myself in check and cut back on fully indulging in eating out and going to events. i am sensitive by nature and can take things personal but I am always willing to have the conversation about whatever it is and I can usually see multiple sides to any given situation. i like being flexible and not rigid in my life. i think being flexible and remaining open is one of the best ways to stay young at heart and not become the old curmudgeon that does everything the same way. I am looking for someone who challenges me in the ways I need to be challenged and who I challenge too (maybe in a good way, maybe not) just by being me. i can't really deal with men who are passive aggressive or super moody or ambivalent. i am looking for someone fairly solid on his life path and desires to have new adventures with a partner!
I am looking for a man (sorry boys), who wants to explore, go deep, and play. preferably you have done "work" on yourself and you are in touch enough with spirit to know that you don't know too many things you thought you once knew. I want someone who wants to share experiences, connect in a real way, and go on fun adventures. someone who inspires me to be the fullest capacity I can be in any given moment. i just learned that LTR means long term relationship. so i want a LTR. to be precise- a monogamous LTR. i am looking for someone to share my life with eventually. someone to grow with, challenge me, who i can challenge too. a "partner in crime" to play, dance, and be a creative visionary in this world with me...clear communication and a willingness to have deep conversations is a must. this is kind of a deal breaker. i like to ask big questions. i don't usually expect them to be answered. i like to entertain notions of the universe and what the hell is really going on here on this earth. i really need someone who is willing to strive for meeting me on multiple levels of communication: energetically, physically, verbally, and spiritually.
i love nature, camping, starting and tending fires, hiking, ferns, laughing, making you laugh, dark chocolate, bacon on the playa, sitting quietly, singing loudly, dancing in grocery stores, high fives, sushi, smoothie concoctions, raw food creations, watching bad romantic comedies, oakland art murmur, miming, east bay open circle satsangs, michael jackson, thunderstorms, being goofy, trying to not be "so serious" or too "sensitive", and I have a weakness for hot chocolate and decaf mochas....yum