*** WARNING: Yes, this may be lengthy, but how can you find Mr. Right if you know nothing about him? I'm baffled by how little people actually communicate on here. I'm an open book... what page should I read?
Hi, my name's Ben. I've been out of the "dating game" for quite some time. Kind of got sick of the "game" part of it all. I spent a lot of time focusing on my career/ambitions, but I've found that the finer things in life aren't nearly as fine without someone to share them with. I'm hoping to find someone who enjoys life and has a positive outlook. They say "nice guys finish last" or that "chivalry's dead", but I don't believe either. My parents raised me right. Granted, I haven't always been a sterling angel & often get stereotyped as a "bad boy" at first glance. But when it comes to what's on the inside, to my true nature so to speak... I'm just a guy with a big heart, an insatiable thirst for knowledge of all kinds, & love of life. Someone who still believes a gentleman should be courteous, open doors, buy flowers, & tell a woman she's beautiful. And NOT just because he wants to get in her pants... but because it's much more fulfilling & rewarding making your better half feel good, supporting her ambitions, fulfilling her wants & desires, and ensuring that she knows what a very important part of your life she is. You can be a 'gentleman' without being a gentle(weak, lesser) man. So if you think that being respectful is overrated or if you need the attention of a guy treating you like crap in order to feel wanted, then I'm not your guy. I try to live drama free. I'm looking for someone who still loves to have fun, but has moved beyond the phase where commitment, trust, and honesty are forgotten all too easily. I'd like you to have an idea what you want out of life, know what'll complete you, then go out there and grab it. It's not going to just find you. Life is sooo short in the grand scheme of things and I refuse to wait or settle as the time ticks by. Hopefully you share my ambition!
Granted, no one's perfect. Certainly not myself and neither is "life." But if things get tough, I'm looking for someone who'll gain strength knowing that I'll always be there and vice versa. All too often relationships are torn apart by no fault of their own when "life" deals us a bad hand. Rather than running away, I'd like to find someone who can trust that I'll be there to make it better.
Please be a happy person. A sense of humor is a must with me. I'd like to think I have a great sense of humor n' if you can't laugh at yourself, then who can you laugh at? So hopefully you enjoy smiling. One of my secret hidden desires... is to wake up each morning and gaze upon someone who's smiling (and I'll do my part to ensure that's how you fall asleep. *wink* LoL)
All modesty aside, I'm a purdy smart guy. I studied nuclear engineering in the Navy and things like astrophysics fascinate me. But please don't let that scare you away. This same guy spent 8 yrs bartending 3 days a week until 5am every weekend because I got sick of the tech industry... sitting in an office every day. I'm back in the office now a days though, using my brain again. Haha. I'm doing something I love though, so I'm happy. It's time to settle down.
All I really ask for in a relationship is honesty. With that, you get trust... and when you can genuinely trust the person you care about... the world is your oyster. I'm up for meeting anyone, but I'd like to find someone special... my best friend. I don't have any kids, but I'd like to someday. I have no deadline for that, as long as I'm not 70yr old, chasing them with my cane as they sneak out the window to go party in high school. I make a point to visit my little niece(2yr) and nephew(4yr old) in Orlando and I treasure that time. They helped me realize what I'm missing in my life.
Well, I look forward to hearing from you!! Either way, I wish you the best out there... have a wonderful day!