Profile 2.2, likely a work in progress:
I like classical music, travel, reading both fiction and non-fiction. I like enjoying what’s best and “permanent” in Western culture (and others,) knowing that there is an enormous amount I need to learn. I'm at an inflection point in life, and am looking for a new partner to share new experiences with, and to create new memories with. At this point, I do not desire to have more children, although it is fine if a mate has children who live with her part of the time.
I’m looking for a soulmate--but these are difficult to find, and it takes time to become aware of it. If in the meantime only new friendships are created, that’s good as well. I know that some do not wish to waste time with the latter, and if you feel that we are not moving forward quickly enough, and decide that you need to leave, I (hopefully) will understand. We both deserve happiness.
It is okay if our interests don’t line up perfectly--that can provide opportunity for new experiences and pleasure for both. There may also be interests that aren’t shared and are, perhaps, best left that way, provided that each respects the other’s individual pursuits. I'm okay with partners having aspects of their lives that remain theirs, but it’s necessary to share core beliefs and views for a good relationship to be built.
Pessimism is sin, but mindful optimism is trite. Hopefulness and trust in God’s will is what is required of us: “E’n la sua volontade e nostra pace” as my favorite Florentine poet put it. I cannot do better, especially as I don’t speak Italian. I like to think that my tastes, views and opinions have been thoughtfully developed, and they usually change slowly. If you don’t have the confidence of conviction, you’re probably not for me.
I’m looking for someone who can be frank about things that may bother her, and who says early on, “we need to talk.” I prefer to talk rather than talk about talking. Most importantly, I have come to realize that courtship is not a stage which precedes a relationship, it is a continuing desire to please, to endear, and to make one’s love known in perhaps small but vitally important ways. When it no longer exists, a relationship begins to die.
In terms of faith, I was received into the Roman Catholic church this last year. It’s been a long journey...from a fairly fundamental protestant background to the Episcopal Church, which became intolerable. This is important to me, and it is a journey I don’t wish to undertake alone. I find Orthodox traditions very compelling and pondered, and may again ponder, the Orthodox church, but the various churches have strong ethnic ties. As a euro-mutt, I don’t fall easily into any of the available possibilities.
This doesn’t mean that we should not occasionally attend the Church of the Sunday Brunch, but we should have common spiritual goals and share the same journey to achieve those.