Good genes and 34 years of fitness training make me seem younger than my age - it's a little spooky and people don't know what to make of me. Not being a camera person, my photos are a bit dorky. Please believe you'll find me better looking in person, which, as I understand, is not typical of internet dating.
Who is my perfect match? I was out with a friend for beers a few months ago. Recently divorced and reading self-help books, he found usefulness in writing down factors he needs in a relationship as well as deal-breakers. I hadn't realized until then that MINE already existed.
My needs? Pretty, thin and nice. Fitness is a huge part of my life but......I also love cooking and eating. Combining fun, heathy eating with frequent exercies takes diligence and dedication. I want to share that responsibility - and the many benefits - with my partner. Pretty is pretty to ME, which is very personal. I know it when I see it. Nice? Never under-rate nice.
Deal breakers? Besides the opposites of my needs, I must have at least a few common interests with the pretty/thin/nice woman. Perhaps she loves yoga and cooking. Or mountain biking and martinis. Or snowboarding and movies. Or hiking and philosophy.
Someone I dated very briefly a number of years ago espoused to me, in a very unromantic tone, about her search for a "partner". She had a couple of young kids, was focused on work, continuing school, working out....a very busy life. The partnership comment really stuck with me though. She is right. Chemistry is all fine and good but a partner knows me, my history, my goals. We are committed to mutual happiness. It's a team sport. She was spot on
And then this: I've heard entirely too much about the importance of communication. I'm looking for conversation. Two people might communicate extremely well, yet not enjoy seeing each other, because they have nothing they enjoy talking about. For me, the joy of a woman's company is wondering what she's thinking about, then listening to her say it. Evaluating this takes time. But I'm patient
So there you have it. I look at myself and my role in the same light. Am I nice? Fit? Could I be a partner to this person? Does fun conversation come to us easily?