It's amazing what you learn about yourself when you take the time to actually pay attention to what you are doing. After divorcing I jumped right back into dating, not realizing that I hadn't taken enough time to understand what I was really looking for. Thanks to a timely dating "sabbatical", I think I'm ready to dive back in again.
I know, you're expecting me to start talking about what I'm looking for in a romantic partner. Well, forget it. I ain't saying a word.
Truth is, I really don't think I know for sure. I know that I would like to be in a long-term exclusive relationship with someone. I also know that it's important that we connect and are drawn to each other intellectually, emotionally and physically.
I also know that similarities in lifestyle are important. I certainly don't expect to find someone that will match me step for step in my quest to see how many new and interesting ways I can "carpe my diem", but if there's no shared interests and activities it's just that much harder to stay connected.
Beyond that, I'm just going to have to leave it up to fate. Hair color, height, education, kids or not - I honestly don't care. I'll know if there is a connection as soon as we have a chance to look each other in the eye and strike up our first conversation. If my previous experience with online dating has taught me anything, it's taught me that you have no idea who you are interacting with until you are face to face.
Now that I've gotten that out of the way, how about I tell you a little more about myself?
I've been accused quite a lot recently of being an adrenaline junkie, and I don't think I can deny it any more. I love to be doing anything that makes me feel alive and in the moment, even if that means that I have to be really close to not being alive to get there.
Don't get the wrong impression here - it's not all about the rush. I love diving into a good intellectual discussion as much as I love tossing myself out of an airplane. I treasure my quiet moments - hanging out on the couch watching a movie, or sleeping late on a Sunday are just as important to me as clinging to the side of a mountain somewhere.
I'll warn you right now - I do have a brain, and even use it from time to time. Unlike some of my peers, I am not the least bit intimidated by intelligence or confidence in a dating partner. Quite the opposite, as a matter of fact - I find intelligence and self confidence quite attractive in a woman. I think it helps that I know who I am and don't feel a need to compete with anyone unless we both think it'll be fun.
Humor also figures heavily into my life - you'll have to judge for yourself whether my sense of humor is "good" or not, but it is definitely there. Laughing comes as naturally as breathing to me, and I enjoy laughing at myself just as much as anything else.
What else can I say? Heck, I'd be surprised if anyone even made it this far. Hopefully there's something in here that has piqued your interest enough to want to find out more. If so, I'm looking forward to making your acquaintance.
Cheers!
