"There comes a time in your life when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it.
You surround yourself with people who make you laugh.
Forget the bad, and focus on the good.
Love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who don't.
Life is too short to be anything but happy.
Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living."
... pretty much - im trying to do that.
i have red hair. if you have heard what that implies, then i should warn you that its all true.
i like to see the beauty in things, especially in people. i tend to not enjoy people who insist on interfering with that hobby.
i try to steer very clear of negativity, scenesters, thoughtless people, drama queens, and people who voted for prop 8.
even more than most people, i am a jumble of contradictions.
im very much a creature of habit. i find what i like and what works for me, and im pretty good at being content... perhaps because im just comfortable with myself. its earned, though, as part of that is knowing how and when to push myself out of my comfort zone, which happens kind of a lot. i believe we are here to experience and to learn and to live life, and its important not to waste that gift.
i live in oakland, and i love it, but i also travel some. the last few years have seen me to south africa, dubai, india, seattle, alaska, vegas, florida, baltimore/dc, miami, new orleans and socal. next is tokyo and then india some more. travel is good for me, and makes me appreciate home... a lot! so when im here, i increasingly like to be home with the kitty - ideally, watching football.
in the meantime, i intend to keep doing things that make me feel alive, try to live my life free of judgments and regrets, and work in some more really hot make out sessions.
im not afraid to ask and work for what i want. i know how to play the games - i just refuse to engage in behavior that isnt pushing either me or the situation forward. im decidedly NOT interested in being in a dramatic or emotionally immature relationship. i like calmness, kindness, respect, and stability, and i would rather be alone than be unhappy.
although im a busy lady during the week, i can and will make time for a healthy relationship... but im not interested in being anyones maid or their mother; i want to take care of you in the ways that all good partners should, but please dont make it my job to make you happy. let me be your love, and your friend, and your partner in this crazy world.
let me put a few things out there. i cant believe i have to say this, but here goes:
i have an awesome job, an impressive (to me) career, and i dont feel the least bit guilty about this. so, if your ideal mate is a housewife, you should probably keep it moving. im terrible in the kitchen and i almost never cook for me, so dont be mad that i almost never cook for you, either. it would be nice if you try to appreciate any attempts; i will always appreciate if/when you cook, and i will always do the dishes. if it helps, i will happily do them in (or out of) an apron.