UPDATE- There are so many fake or inactive profiles out there! So if you share very few details about yourself, no photo and ask me to email your personal account, then I'm onto you, you rolly polly Nigerian con man sitting in a cubicle clear across the world! I will not respond because, well, Nigeria is just too far for us to have a meaningful relationship.
ABOUT ME: So you mustve seen the "Currently Separated" at the top. We might as well change that to "Currently Infected by a variety of Monkey Viruses." So let me address that head on: I'm not unavailable, jaded, still living with my ex, emotionally scarred, confused, cheating on my spouse, or infected with any monkey viruses. It's been well over a year, I'm in my own place, and I'm over it - so hopefully you can be too. We have already begun amicable proceedings and expect to be divorced in a few months. And I've never been happier!
And while some recently divorced guys have one thing on their agenda - "slippin' it " to as many women as possible. That is not my agenda. I'm looking for a real relationship. I'm not desperately seeking a wife, but the RIGHT girl will have the marriage, family, etc. if that's the journey she wants me to take with her. All I ask is, please don't ever make me see"Eat Pray Love" or shop with you at Barneys Warehouse Sale.
Also I’m the dad of a beautiful, energetic, hilarious 4 year old son. We laugh, play together and he’s my best friend. He is not a complication, or baggage, he’s the backbone of the man I’ve become. But know that I'm able to compartmentalize my emotions better than most men. My love for him is infinite but it comes from a totally different "balance sheet" than my love for a woman. So if you don’t have a child, I hope you’re not deterred by the fact that I do. And if you are, we just werent meant to be.
In a nutshell, I’m one of the good guys. Really, it sounds funny but it’s how I view myself and it’s also how I conduct myself. I don’t lie, cheat, manipulate, take advantage of, step on puppy tails, rob banks, flick the ears of strangers on public transportation, or make fun of people with hairy backs (okay, maybe once i've done that). And in dating – I’m honest and don’t play games. You’ll always know where you stand with me. And the douche that created the “48-hour rule” needs be forced to watch every episode of Sex-in-the-City consecutively with no bathroom breaks (my version of Hell).
But I’m the guy that calls when he says he’s going to call; the guy that will spend an entire afternoon looking for a thoughtful gift for you; the guy that will plan the perfect vacation; the guy that will cook for you – a lot! And, I’m the guy that will always have your back.
What am I looking for? Read my last paragraph and replace “Guy” with “Girl” and “he” with “She”. Except I don't care if she cooks :). She’s refined but goofy, smart but has her “blonde” moments, independent but still misses me when I'm not around. She’s not a right-fighter, but she fights fair and knows that being a couple means taking the high road 50% of the time.
And, despite my softer side, I’m still a man. As an investment banker, I’m decisive, and I'm happy to take charge. I'm a bull dog in my career and defintely professionally motivated (love my job). I also take calculated risks in my personal life. I’ve skydived 75 times, own a fast Italian motorcycle (Ducati), hang-glided over Rio, eaten at road-side foodstands in third world countries, and fractured my tailbone twice jumping stairs on rollerblades. Okay the fractures weren't entirely calculated :)