As a self-proclaimed field expert due to the past 15 months of Match endurance testing, I am compelled to offer you:
A MAN’S GUIDE TO ONLINE DATING
Meeting/Flirting online should be a brief extension of (not INSTEAD of) a real life experience. Therefore, be yourself and be aware of the following:
1. As a gentleman, the social expectation in real life is that YOU would be the pursuer. So, in spite of damned “Women’s Lib,” this is still expected in most cases.
2. Due to the fact of #1 you may get rejected more often but don’t allow this to discourage you. Be bold. Use your typing skills and your charming wit. You don’t have to be the most handsome to confidently win the attention of a woman.
3. A wink is a great way to determine interest, but an email is best to get her attention. Again, if this were real life, would you attempt to talk with her? Probably. (*note: acknowledging your wink/email is a good sign this person is polite. Ignoring people is rude. We are still REAL PEOPLE, right?!?)
4. A woman’s unwillingness to exchange phone numbers or meet in person within a few emails is a sign she is either hiding something or doesn’t have time for you. Proceed w caution.
5. If you’re using pick-up lines in emails or IM, you should know most classy, intelligent women will respond the same way as in person. So depending on the type of lady you’re attempting to make a connection with, adjust accordingly.
6. Be kind and don’t alter your personality based on the bizarre interactions w other Match subscribers. Your real self should be clearly reflected by your “online” self. Just be you. Make no apologies for what you like or are attracted to.
7. Don’t forget to be kind.
REALISTIC BODY TYPE EXPECTATIONS:
SLENDER: She likely wears the same (bra) size since middle school and can easily be carried out of a burning building by a man of average strength.
CURVY: She’s carrying an extra 10-20 pounds. No worries, they are well-distributed (just you wait and see).
ABOUT AVERAGE: She is neither trim nor obese. In this country, she wears a size 12-14 and has a 35” waist. Jelly rolls and muffin tops are possible.
A FEW EXTRA POUNDS: This actually means a few dozen.
FULL FIGURED/BIG AND BEAUTIFUL: She was a brick house before she had kids, but time has changed her. She is still very sexy to the right man (No need to be critical, she’s hard enough on herself about it).
ATHLETIC AND TONED: *WARNING… This is incredibly subjective. Ideally, this SHOULD mean she is fit and defined. However, in this writer’s opinion, this selection is widely overused and abused (esp. by men) and not indicative of size.
NOW:
About me:
I'm described by my family and friends as fiercely loyal, encouraging, strong-willed (perhaps a bit stubborn at times?), classy yet sassy, faithful, passionate (and feisty if you tick me off), magnetic, affectionate, playful, articulate, and wise (this may induce an occasional wise-crack). I own my home and am financially secure and debt-free.
I have 3 (intelligent, hilarious, compassionate, beautiful) children; 2 independent adult daughters (my oldest is married and is a new Mom). I am solely raising a young man; a sophomore in HS and brilliant athlete with a proud Mom. I'm a yoga instructor and am LOVING my new hobby/business, leading a Christ-centered yoga practice 3x a week.
About you:
I am seeking a man who is happy and willing to share his life.
You MUST have:
- strong moral character
- reputable integrity
- love for Jesus
- a protective nature
- a GREAT sense of humor
- a positive outlook
- a clean, hygienic, easy smile
You MUST be:
- unmarried
- intelligent
- attentive (I need to know I hold your interest)
- humble yet confident
- emotionally generous and mature
- financially independent (no one else supporting your habits)
- a respectful communicator
- unafraid of marriage... someday.
I am looking forward to meeting this man.
