A necessary confession:
"There are millions of us out here. Women who are between lovers, widowed, divorced, or just simply exploring the world of relationship. Women who are longing for love, longing for intimacy.
Such beautiful longings.
And there are millions of men out here. Men who love women, men who love sex, men who long for intimacy, men who want to make women happy.
Beautiful, amazing men.
Sounds like it shouldn’t be that complicated.
Should just all work out like a dream, right?
Longing meets Longing and lives happily ever after in the land of fulfillment?
The ingredients are solid.
Not always the case...
Truth to be told, I'm struggling with dating in the "real world." It feels to me we are falling into the trap of being too busy to actually get real involved with someone else...
We are too used to living in our comfort zone and mundane routines to actually wear our hearts on the sleeve.
If we are new to the game, we might be scared of getting hurt.
If we have had heartbreak, we might be scared of having another one.
If we have lost a beloved, we might be scared of losing again.
This modern world of endless texting, casual dating, it is like people walk around wanting to find true love but not actually doing the work, which requires putting your guard down and enjoying the ride...
Our perfect half can be right there in front of our nose but perhaps we have more things to worry about, or it drains our energy to give it a real and honest try.
Too risky? Perhaps.
However, let's agree everything worth having takes a lot of effort.
I don't think love is complicated, we are sometimes too complex to do something simple, just love.
I am hopeful there is an ideal match for all of us if we take a leap of faith. It goes without saying, the real world makes it tough to develop a relationship and that is what has brought us all here.
The conclusion is I have to make adjustments to date better in the real world; I'm just not sure how I'm going to do that.
The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Honesty (What is love without trust?) "Honesty in a relationship is vitally important because it gives us the assurance that we can trust and rely on the person we love. It is what love is based on. Because if we can’t trust those who are closest to us we cannot rely on them in times of stress or in a crisis. It leaves us filled with doubt rather than imbued with confidence. And it gradually eats away at the relationship until it is destroyed."
The most influential person in my life has been
My brother. Although he is 5 years younger than me, he has achieved a lot in his young life. He amazes me with his down to earth personality, maturity, good nature, pure heart, patience, passion for life and dedication to giving his best at everything he does and to everyone he meets. He inspires me to be a better person everyday. He is my best friend and I can always count on him.
The first thing people notice about me:
My smile A smile is one of the most obvious and effective methods of non-verbal communication. It is one of the first things someone will notice about you. A smile, both physically as well as subconsciously, transmits the message, 'I'm glad you're here and that I'm happy to see you.'
My idea of a perfect date:
In a way, taking a country drive, or a walk, or watching the sunset is more intimate because you only have each other to focus on versus a show, a waiter & dinner, etc.
A Little Help from Nature
Nature can set the tone for so many dates. Getting caught in a rain storm can be just as memorable as a stroll on a perfect, crispy fall or snow day.