Like so many men, I'm looking for my forever woman, not a "mere" fling or a romance, but a lifeline fling and romance. Chemistry is obviously important, and I'd like to have it, but I'm also well aware that my own strengths aren't readily evident in a photo or two. Character matters more, and I'd like to think I have the substance and stickiness required for a partnership, the calmness and centeredness to build "true love," and to ride out storms life throws one's way.
I'm also aware that details count, sometimes even the smallest ones, and soaring rhetoric doesn't do the laundry. Sometime back, I ran across a relationship article listing some secrets to a long marriage. The angle was fresh, simplifying the mystery to ten or so concrete conflict points: money, children, time management, neatness, and the like. I didn't keep the article, and I can't remember the list, but its gist has stuck with me, that so long as a couple can find common ground on these few points, they have a great chance of staying together. I don't dare tackle these points with a general audience, but please know I'm quite happy to address your particular concerns, and I aim at being an open book.
In these profiles I read much talk about "smart and funny" and various other "requirements" like a passport and music tastes. I'm not sure I can quantify what I'd want from a woman so easily, as it all seems to go out the window when I find someone I like. It's great to have been places and done things, but I hope that's not what makes you and me interesting, at least not alone. I guess, most of all, I'd like to spend my life with someone who never stops being curious. To the end, my aunt loved the roses my uncle would bring her from the garden; that winsome awe in the face of the simple lasted forever.