I am an outgoing, single, successful woman with my one child (20), who is a senior at Harvard. I consider him one of my major accomplishments; as I tell him, you're my production. Since he left for college, yes, I'm an empty nester, I've been searching for that which will put the cherry on top of my life and give me a deeper sense of completeness. Chemistry is the most important factor. Either it's there or it is not. I don't find this way of looking for a boyfriend the most favorable. Would be nice to just go out and meet someone who, when your eyes meet, things just click. That's a lot to ask for I know and it must be a high degree of difficulty since, like you, I find myself here searching.
I am happy, grounded; people describe me as beautiful, bubbly, intelligent and funny. I like physical fitness and sometimes slack off, but it is important enough to me to keep myself looking good. I'm a bit glamorous but very easy going and not the least bit pretentious. I do hate pretense and I'm not impressed with someone trying to project an image. I'm very perceptive and I'm pretty direct. I am passionate about cooking and you are going to be one lucky man. At some point, I plan to go to cooking school to expand my knowledge with no particular goal in mind other than the credential. I already have a business, but it's flexible enough that I actually could do something else. Trust me, cooking is it. I own my home and I love decorating it.
I will be attracted to an outgoing, mature, sophisticated, successful man. Although searching for my mate and being a bit skeptical about meeting that person on this site, I feel I am open to meeting initially for friendly, intellectual conversation over dinner to see if there is any common ground without any pressure. If nothing else, perhaps I can make new friends to hang out with. If you're just looking for someone to "have fun" with, I'm not that person.
My Ideal Match: At this point, when I think of the ideal man, I know I have to be with someone who is intelligent, kind, and a giver. There must be chemistry (physical attraction, emotional and intellectual attunement). If I analyze my previous relationships, I would say that I seemed to have always attracted takers or a man who is unavailable (not married), just unavailable. I need a mutual relationship. I am a nurturer, but I want to be nurtured as well. I guess I've grown and I'm ready to be loved. My man has to be into taking care of himself--mind, body and spirit. No one is going to be perfect, but I will need to have at least 2-3 things in common with you that we can do together. Obviously, this is an exploration and a crap shoot. If by some luck of the draw I was to meet my significant other on this site, I would be shocked but both pleased and impressed.
You know, I think I could make a big long list of what I want in a man (including but not limited to brilliance, charisma, high functioning), but whoever I find that clicks with me is going to be a package waiting just for me regardless of desired attributes, and I don't want to bore anybody with a list of my wants, needs and wishes. If you're out there, chances are you may not be on this site, but like I said it's just a chance opportunity being on a site like this and I'll expect nothing. Maybe I'll be surprised.
