I'm probably idealistically realistic. Magical things are happening in the world, but it’s my perspective that determines my happiness. I meditate but am put off by most organized religions/dogmatic views. I'm talkative but pretty shy. Honesty, integrity, mindfulness, and kindness are qualities I look for and try to cultivate. Humor is crucial, because life is messy. I like a good wry East Coast wit as well as just goofy good-natured energy. I love to laugh and talk about anything interesting. I value my friends and work hard to keep those relationships strong even when I’m too busy.
I'd like to find joy every day and treat others well while doing it. I just finished my second novel but am shy to approach an agent. I'd like to clone my dog because she has such a short lifespan. (I will not clone my dog, of course, 'cause that's just nutty, but if I published and became rich, I would be very, very tempted). I love road trips, travel, and staying in hostels. I'd rather have free time than fancy things. I can never open a bottle of seltzer without spraying it on myself, but I'm always a good sport about it.
The most important creatures in my life are my brother and my dog. I often dream of flying and love to talk about philosophy and/or intellectual ideas. I avoid TV but watch too much Netflix--currently in a West Wing zone. I'd like to be a vegetarian but always fail at it. The best things my father taught me were how to drive stick and work hard. The best things my mother taught me were to speak my mind and regard all people as equal. I've lived in NY, upstate and down, Ireland, and Oregon, and I don't plan on leaving Colorado, but who knows what the universe has planned? My heroes are my nephews, Einstein, my parents, and Dennis Kucinich. Oh, and Jon Stewart on Crossfire in 2004. Classic.
You: I don't know how to describe who the "right" is, because I can't explain that with words... kind, smart, honest, down to earth--definitely someone who believes life is a grand parade that is meant to be enjoyed. Someone who still believes in love even if you, like me, haven't had a ton of luck, or ton of time, or maybe it took you this long to get your head screwed on straight. I often feel like the Greatest American Hero (where’s the instruction manual for this suit?) or Yossarian (who stole my parachute?) As long as you’re here now, that’s what matters. How much you make isn't important to me. I support myself. But, I want someone who feels he has a contribution to make to the world, even if it’s just to stand up for what he believes. I think love and romance both stem from friendship. However, sometimes there's just that something you can't ever describe, just like a really good line in a poem.
If you've ever said, "I'm not a racist, but" you're not the guy for me, unless you said it in some Colbert-like parody, in which case I would find it highly amusing. I don't ski or snowboard but am happy hiking or reading for a weekend in the mountains, and mostly just like to travel, talk, and share ideas. I love live music but am shy to dance. I don't do drugs, I drink occasionally, usually whatever is brewed locally, and I can definitely enjoy a sober lifestyle or participate in yours if you need, since mindfulness is important to me. I’d rather date someone who has looked up from rock bottom and climbed out than someone who’s never taken a good hard look at himself and figured out what he’s made of. I know I’ve had to. One day I learned how to laugh at myself and now I feel a whole lot wiser (and happier).
I'm pretty sure I'm more interesting in person, but I can't prove it :)
If you required "cute," "attractive" or "sexy" in your post, I'll likely not respond since that feels like a lot of pressure.
I do believe in commitment, and I’m sure love is realer than anything else in this world.
(I know Asimov didn't write Fahrenheit 451. Just liked the name.)
