“Don’t let people, problems, and the pain of your past, pause your present, punish your person, prison your potential, and paralyze your progress…begin walking boldly into your future and do not allow others to hold you back.” - Angela Davis
I continuously strive to live my life with no regrets. This requires serious contemplation of all that I do for myself as well as that which I contribute to the people in my life and to the world. I find that living with no regrets is a serious balancing act that requires me to really know and understand my expectations and how they may align with an endless variety of potential end results. We don't always get the satisfaction, gratification or other outcomes that we anticipate. Being authentic and true to myself requires me to examine the possibility of an undesirable result before choosing a course of action.
About myself - I am someone who is very difficult to hold back because I have strong work ethic, ambition, tenacity, spirituality, optimism and hope. I am a deep thinker and I enjoy solving complex social problems that might make my life and the world that we live in a better place for us to be. My career is aligned with these interests.
If I could be defined by stereotypes and labels which, I definitely don't fit into easily, the box I would most fit into is "assertive/aggressive femme." In other words, I am not your run of the mill girl-next-door. I have dated both womyn and men; exclusively dated womyn for the last 17 yrs and was married to my ex-wife for 10 yrs. In summary, womyn or men who enjoy traditional butch/femme roles and relationships tend to compete or clash with me. I am who I am - I realize it's not a good match for many.
Others describe me as kind, intelligent, a bit of an over-achiever and a great cook. Some also say that I love deeply; but most of us are capable of this. I am search for someone who believes as I do that love is an action verb – love is as one lovingly does. It's the doing that gives love its substance. Those three simple words - "I love you" - are empty if your actions don't show it. Love requires an ongoing demonstration of loving acts by both people in the relationship. I think that those who express the opinion that I love deeply are actually perceiving the depth of my loyalty and commitment combined with my life philosophy to live my life with no regrets. Living my life with no regrets means that I leave no stone unturned; no question unanswered; and no kind gesture unacknowledged. It doesn't mean that I am fearless - it means that I take initiative and I am responsive - that I feel the fear and do it anyway. People may perceive these acts as loving someone deeply, but they're truly acts of self love that facilitate my ability to live life with no regrets.
Your probable description of me will be that I have a lot to offer to the right person including, but not limited to: respect, compassion, emotional support, honesty, interesting conversations, loyalty, integrity, commitment, laughter, spontaneity, understanding, excitement and numerous other benefits and gratifications. And, of course, you're completely right about all that : )
If you find that you agree with some of my philosophies on life and love, then perhaps there are other things we might share in common. Let's explore the possibility and have no regrets. Hope to hear from you soon.