Following your heart and doing what feels right is the way I structure every decision I make in life. Is it always the "correct" decision? No. But it's the decision that allows me to lay my head down at night with a clear conscience. I haven't always had this seemingly simple mentality and have therefore made choices in the past that I cannot change and it does no good to have regrets. So, I learn from previous choices and move forward with my newfound philosophy on life. Wow, it feels good! When you quit trying to base your life on what others think is the right way and look within yourself for the answers, a great deal of stress is removed from the equation.
I have read profiles that mention not wanting anyone with drama...I guess I would clarify that by saying that I feel that anyone at this age in life is going to have "things" going on in their life. The true test is how a person deals with their "drama". Life isn't easy but with the right attitude, it can be tolerable at its worst and extremely enjoyable at its best. This, too, is something that I have learned through life's lessons.
For me, one of the most wonderful feelings in this world is the way a pair of loving strong arms of a loving man can make me feel. I'm not selfish. I like to feel that I can make my man feel special by listening and caring about what he has to say. I love to spend time with "my man" and also believe that a healthy relationship requires the ability to have "us" and "me" time. I need my time with the girls and think that most guys would appreciate their time with the guys. I am strong and tender and would like a man who is the same. I want to be in a relationship where me and my partner complement one another. They say that opposites attract and this may be true, but I believe you must have some things in common to maintain the attraction. With that said, I need to emphasize that affection is very important to me in a relationship. I believe in compromise, but lack of affection is a deal breaker for me.
Being open minded and able to adapt to change is a part of maturing. I feel that when you begin thinking that your way is the only way, you are closing yourself to many great opportunities in life. Differences in opinions is one thing that keeps life interesting. There is no right or wrong when it comes to an opinion; it is what it is, an opinion. Keeping your mind and heart open to listening to someone else's point of view is what gives me the ability to grow.
I am the proud mother of a daughter and three sons. My two older children, ages 22 and 20 live away from home. My two younger boys, ages 8 and 6 live with me part time. My ex and I have a really good relationship when it comes to time with our boys. We share joint custody.
I feel like this is a good start of trying to explain how I feel about most things. If you think this describes the type of woman and type of relationship that you would like to have, please drop me a line. I'd love to hear from you too.
One more thing, I do not enjoy sending a great deal of emails and texts back and forth...I believe you can tell so much more about a person by talking on the phone and in person...just saying.....