Well, I am supposed to write something about myself here, so here goes. I'm pretty independent and probably do not fall into typical social norms...at least I don't think. I don't do perky. Pleasant is fine, but perky is fake and it annoys my greatly...particularly first thing in the morning.
I went to U of I and studied art/architecture and work for an engineering firm. I would like to find someone to hang out with after work. Maybe someone who likes to work out since more and more of my free time seems to be spent at the gym. I don't really enjoy sitting around much, considering I sit all day at my job. I would definetly say I am not lazy.
I like an ecletic mix of music. I listen to anything from Dead Can Dance, Kings of Leon, Jim Reeves, Flo Rida, AC/DC to Yo Yo Ma. Just depends on my mood and what I am doing.
Me as a person, well from what I have been told, I am guarded. I am unfortunately not that social of a person, I mean I can be, I just need someone to drag me out of my shell though. I get grumpy when I am tired and I definetly have a wall I hit if I go out at night. A point when I go from pleasant to not so pleasant. Apparently I was like that when I was a toddler and just never grew out of it. I had my first beer last year, and confirmed what I already knew, I don't like it. I am more of a mixed drink or wine person, although I have zero tolerance either. I have a good sense of humor and being that I work with almost all men, do not get offended easily. I can be sarcastic though, I think its a left over from my days in the Air Force. It's on my bucket list to learn how to dance. I don't even know how to slow dance, pathetic I know.
I come from a family that is not into sports. None of the men (or women for that matter) are interested sports and I pretty much fall in suit with them. I realize finding someone like that is a pretty tall order. I guess a healthy amount of sports is OK, but when you spend your entire weekend sitting in front of the TV watching sports...yeah not good for me. I don't mind tailgating, I did go to Iowa after all, but I don't really remember tailgating being much about football oddly enough. I actually kind of liked tailgating. I don't mind if you actually play sports, that is perfectly fine, that's great, its just the watching someone else play for hours, that I don't really understand. But enough about that...
I recently moved to Kalona and I discovered shortly after moving here that I am really a city mouse and need to be closer to where things are going on. My whole life is in Iowa City though, work, gym, friends, work, etc.
Ok, here comes the heavy stuff. I am not a big fan of marriage. I think a lot of necessary BS can be dished out by both parties when marriage is involved. I know it's not supposed to, but from what I have seen, it does. I do beileve that two people can be together for a very long time and not be married and be perfectly happy. Its about being with someone because both parties "want to" be with the other, not because they "have to". I never want to be in a relationship where either party feels "stuck" with the other. I would never want to be with someone if they didn't want to be there too. I think a lot of times people get lazy in relationships when marriage is involved. I think you have to work at your relationship, always, and keep up on yourself...and your appearance. However, i can definetly see the need for marriage when children are involved, that is a whole different story. Ya know what though, the right man could probably make me change my mind on this one.
I have a decent job so I can take care of myself. I am not looking for someone to rescue me. I don't really do the submissive role. I want a best friend and more... I would like to find someone who feels the same way