First, above all else, I'm looking for someone that is a lot of fun and enjoys life! I'd like to find someone with similar interests as mine so that I can initially have someone to "do" things with. Whether it's meeting some friends out for dinner, heading to farmers market for the morning, catching a afternoon baseball game or movie- I'm usually game for most anything. If I haven't done it I'm typically open minded and will try it at least once. If that leads to more, then great!
Second, my family (especially my niece and nephew) and friends are a very large part of my life. I see my family and friends several times a month and it's important that I find someone that is as dedicated to nourishing those relationships as I am. I understand not everyone is as close to their family and/or friends as I am but I want someone to be understanding and supportive of my relationship with mine.
A little more about me....
I grew up in Northern Iowa and moved to the twin cities the first time (it's a long story) in 2007. I had what I would call a pretty normal life growing up and did the usual activities (dance, volleyball, basketball, etc...). My parents (especially my mom) have always been extremely active in my hometown and I've grown up with the expectation that we're here to better our community and that it's our responsibility to give back whether is through the Chamber of Commerce, Make-A-Wish, Relay for Life or JDRF. If there's a good cause behind it I'm willing to support it!
My career is very important to me right now. My "someday" goal is to work for myself allowing me to support and spend as much time as possible with (hopefully) my own family. I'm currently working with my aunt with a company that she recently co-founded here in the twin cities. I was raised with a strong work ethic and would like to find someone with that same drive as I have.
I've had a couple very long relationships. They both had their ups and obviously their downs. I've learned a lot about myself from each...a few things being.
I need a partner who is a people person. I tend to be shy initially and do best when I have an out going personality to feed off. Once I get to know someone I can talk for hours.
I do well with someone who is slow to anger or stress. I'm constantly working on keeping life in perspective but I'll be honest, I can get stressed out quickly and have found that I do best when I have someone who is the opposite so we can keep each other balanced.
I need a partner who is at the point in their life where they're ready to put time and effort into a relationship. In my previous relationships there were long periods of time apart due to a job or internship. It wasn't the only thing that drew us apart but it was definitely a contributor. I need someone who has time to commit to nourishing a relationship.
I need a partner who is satisfied/comfortable heading downtown to meet friends for drinks and apps one night but staying home and watching a movie the next. I enjoy getting dressed up but just as much as I enjoy throwing on a sweats and just relaxing with a bottle of wine (or two:o) )
I need a partner who is financially responsible. My mom is financial planner...need I say more?
I'm all for having a few drinks (I look forward to happy hour just as much as the next person) but I need someone who knows where to draw the line.