"If you cannot find peace within yourself, you will never find it anywhere else." - Marvin Gaye
It took a lot of searching to find my inner peace but, inspite (and despite) of the circumstances I've lived through, I can finally say that I am happy, healthy and can appreciate what it means to be both.
"If you change yourself, then who are you?"
It's not ab changing your views or your opinions - you should constantly be growing in those ways - but you shouldn't change who you are as a person to please others.
I would love to find a man who knows who he is, what he wants and can find humor in any situation. Life is too short to not enjoy every minute.