I was raised in the south and I see myself somewhere between a tomboy and charming southern bell (I am very liberal) who is smart, open minded with a sharp wit with an open and loving way of being. I am sarcastic and edgy but deeply loving and supportive of all the people in my life. I am clear with who I am and what I want.
I wanted to update my profile because I felt it said what I did not who I am. So I asked my friends to describe me and I got some good material. "engaged with life", "passionate about community", authentic, receptive, concerned with healthy living, silly, and brave" I also got "Outgoing, energetic and silly (notice I got silly twice) but also caring, perceptive and introspective. And lots of fun to boot." "Charismatic, funny, positive, motivating, authentic , has a bad ass deadlift, down to earth." A male friend said " gutsy, quirky, and comfortable with herself and in her own skin, motivated, and caring." I would add I am friendly, grounded, passionate, easy-going and funny as hell.
I want a man who knows his own mind, heart and soul. A man who is just as comfortable out to a nice dinner as out camping hanging around a fire getting dirty. Who can start a camp fire without using 3 Sunday newspapers. A man who puts his hand on the small of my back to guide me through a crowd. Who can give a look that says a 1000 words. You have to be able to laugh at yourself and most of the what life brings your way. I want someone who runs a little hot rather than cold. Fights fare and knows how to accept an apology and how to make up. I envision a man who is happy with himself and his life and successful in whatever he does during the day but who is a little bit of country or edgy or drives a big truck. Maybe a man with some swagger or a confident gate. Stuffed shirts are not a good fit or couch potatoes. I think every happy couple finds a good rhythm (get your mind out of the gutter) and for me it leans toward active especially on the weekends as my weekend nights are jammed with family stuff. I think being entertaining and a good listener at the same time is a nice combo. You have to be a big enough man to appreciate and "handle" my bold, outgoing personality. Affectionate is a must, not negotiable. If you can't do affection don't respond. Here is my list of left over one words and phrases of what I want: Articulate, funny, confident, comfortable with themselves, who they are and what they offer a woman and the world, comfortable in his own skin.
The most interesting thing about the descriptions above is that I am all of those as well. I like myself and would like to be with someone who is similar.
My ideal vacation is to go on a rugged cattle drive and camp out under the stars. I wouldn't mind a lazy hot beach thing either but I like camping and all outdoor sports and activities.
I want a relationship that has a lot of hand holding, soft touches in passing, honest words, an open hearts. Make dinner together drinking wine and talking and it ends in front of the fire place discussing philosophy or life's most complex issues. A safe place to land.
I am dedicated mother and damn good at it (most of the time). My children are happy, smart and successful and they will always be my priority and one way to stay good at it is taking care of myself. One way is to exercise. I Crossfit 5 to 6 times a week. It is extremely intense. I just can't get enough. It not only is challenging in strength, flexibility and technique it also allows me to do so many other strenuous activities like long hikes, rock climbing, running races and dirty mud runs and warrior dashes and lifting small cars in rush hour to get home faster. If you are curious YouTube What is Crossfit. BTW, I do not look like a man with boobs. I look like a toned and athletic woman. I am going to compete locally next year. I am into great health and well-being. Eating right (except for dark chocolate and wine