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40 year old woman | Bakersfield, CA, USA | Seeking men 34-48 within 200 miles

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Her details

Have kids:
Yes, and they live at home (3)
Wants kids:
No, but it's OK if my partner has kids
White / Caucasian
Body type:
About average
5'10" (177cms)
Christian / Other
No Way
Social Drinker
Passion, humor, loyalty, honesty, and trust. I could live with anyone for a while, I'm looking for someone I can't live without forever.

In her own words

Let me start by saying I'm honest, sometimes to a fault. I know what I'm looking for, I know what I like and I know what I don't. Some people call this picky, I prefer decisive. I have four children, three live at home with me and my oldest lives with his dad. My relationship with the ex is fairly drama free, we disagree occasionally, but have never been forced to battle anything out in court. My kids have rules and structure and have been taught proper manners at the dinner table and in life. Anyone I consider having a relationship with must subscribe to the same values in the child rearing arena. I would prefer to date someone who has children, as I think it's easier to understand what goes on with other people's kids if you have your own. If you don't have kids of your own, don't want any and are understanding of the relationship I have with my children, are kind to them and willing to be involved That's great. If you have children and aren't a part of their lives this is a problem for me because I neither condone or understand this behavior. In order to narrow things down and get a comfortable grasp of what I'm not looking for I have compiled the following: 1. If you are a felon or have anything in your past that would cause you to fail a simple background check you're not the guy for me. 2. If you are an alcoholic or have "a drinking problem" or if alcohol has ever been an issue for you in a past relationship good luck with your continued search. 3. If you do drugs, wether recreational or otherwise, I'm not interested. 4. If you are under 5'10" tall, although I'm sure you are a catch, I am 5'10" and enjoy wearing heals, I don't enjoy feeling like a drag queen, so I'll have to pass. 5. If you have mass quantities of body hair and are unwilling to remove said hair in some manner, be it shaving, waxing or laser hair removal, I know my limitations and I will gag and possibly vomit in close contact with the fuzz in question. Leg, armpit, and arm hair are exempt from this rule. 6. If you are more than ten years younger than I am, as much as I'm sure you could keep up, I will forever feel the need for a permission slip from your parents. 7. If you have facial hair that resembles ZZTOP, or could contain remnants of last Tuesdays dinner, it's not for me (if you had to Google ZZTOP you're too young for me). 8. If you aren't a Christian I will worry about your soul and it will become a point of contention. 9. If you have any kind of facial piercing(s) or gages, I'm just too vanilla for you. 10. If you want children of your own or want a baby with your new partner I have no desire or inclination to further destroy my body by having more children, or to further destroy my mind by having to raise another one from infancy. 11. Proper punctuation and knowing that The letter i when used to refer to ones self MUST be a capital letter is essentIal. If you're unsure of the differences in you're and your, there, their and they're, too, two and to, we aren't compatible. I'm funny, and outgoing and like to experience life. I love trying new things and seeing new places, conversely I like time at home to relax and recharge. I don't NEED anyone to take care of me, rather I WANT someone to share his life with me, and allow me to reciprocate, catch me if I fall and trust that I am strong enough to catch and carry him if times get tough. I'm looking for PASSION, combined with HUMOR, HONESTY, LOYALTY and TRUST. I am unwilling to settle for anything less. I want a MAN, who is physically stronger than I am, mentally my equal, and a true gentleman. I would rather shovel cow manure with someone I love and have a great time with than lay on a beach and sip tropical drinks with someone that doesn't get me. I'm real, I don't pretend to be someone I'm not, and I don't care to surround myself with fake people. If this hasn't scared you away please feel email me and we will talk!

Her interests

Book club , Camping , Coffee and conversation , Business networking , Cooking , Dining out , Fishing/Hunting , Gardening/Landscaping , Hobbies and crafts , Movies/Videos , Music and concerts , Exploring new areas , Nightclubs/Dancing , Playing sports , Political interests , Shopping/Antiques , Travel/Sightseeing , Watching sports , Wine tasting

Sports & exercise

Baseball, Billiards / Pool, Football, Golf, Inline skating, Martial arts, Other types of exercise, Running, Skiing, Soccer, Swimming, VolleyBall, Walking / Hiking, Weights / Machines, Yoga

I exercise 3-4 times per week.




I have Birds, Cats, Dogs

I have a Golden Retriever, and a Great Dane, a house cat and my daughter has a parrot.

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  Her What she is looking for
Height: 5'10" (177cms) 6'0" (182cms) to 6'11" (210cms)
Body type: About average About average, Athletic and toned, A few extra pounds
Eyes: Brown Black, Blue, Brown, Grey, Green, Hazel
Hair: Dark brown Black, Light brown, Dark brown, Blonde, Salt and pepper, Dark blonde, Grey, Platinum, Bald
Smoke: No Way No Way, Cigar aficionado
Drink: Social Drinker Social Drinker
Occupation: Sales / Marketing No preference
Income: $75,001 to $100,000 $50,001 to $75,000, $100,001 to $150,000, $150,001+
Relationship: Divorced Never Married, Widow / Widower, Divorced
Have kids: Yes, and they live at home (3) Yes, and they sometimes live at home, Yes, and they live at home
Wants kids: No, but it's OK if my partner has kids No, but it's OK if my partner has kids
Background / Values
Ethnicity: White / Caucasian Black / African descent, East Indian, Latino / Hispanic, Middle Eastern, Native American, Pacific Islander, White / Caucasian
Faith: Christian / Other Christian / Catholic, Christian / Protestant, Jewish, Spiritual but not religious, Christian / Other
Languages: English English
Education: Some college Some college, Associates degree, Bachelors degree, Graduate degree, PhD / Post Doctoral
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