You've just met someone who you think you’re into. But you’ve been through this before. You think “Wow!” and then you have second thoughts, third thoughts, and by the time you get around to meeting again, you don’t know what you think anymore.
But wait a minute: Thinking is a passion-killer. To know how you feel, you need to listen to your heart, not your head. Tune into your romantic instincts, and don’t let second-guessing put the kibosh on romantic potential. We’ll help you do just that: Check out your sign, and pay attention to how your romantic instincts reveal when you’re ready for something big.
You’re a fearless fire sign, up for a challenge, but when real love potential hits, it can bring out your inner coward. You won’t want to talk about it, you might throw down some big bravado to tell your pals you’re not really into anyone, but the minute your new love interest’s name is mentioned you’re quiet, clumsy and cautious. Your romantic instincts bring unfamiliar fragility into your life. If you feel off balance, a partner could be your new equilibrium.
Stable, loyal and careful, you’re an earthy sign at ease with love and tender moments. Yet your composure is thrown off by earth-shattering attraction. Your throat can close up (coughing and choking aren’t uncommon), and your voice can be wobbly or even crack. Take a deep breath, keep a bottle of water nearby, and if you can get a friend to translate for you, all the better.
Never at a loss for words, you are a mutable air sign of unflagging energy. A Gemini in the first throes of love might experience a collapse of verbal skills (you will be quiet) as well as an unaccustomed stillness. As a sign that rules the mind, you’re going to be thrown off by any deep emotion. If words aren’t easy, you can’t think of anything to say, and you’re feeling pretty stupid, you’re probably on the verge of love.
Tough on the outside, mush on the inside, you’re a very loving water sign when your heart is in it. When you’ve met someone worthy of your love consideration, you’re likely to get really tough, even moody, and test this poor person to the point of despair. The more you care, the more you’ll dare. Lucky for you, if your new love interest passes your tests, he or she will be rewarded by the most loving person on the planet. Just hope the person sticks around to enjoy that reward.
A fixed fire sign, you manage to spin your stubbornness and innate sense of entitlement into a virtue. People expect you to stick to your standards and assume a role of leadership. When love comes along, your royal nature softens from lion to pussycat. If you find yourself curling up in the lap of your new love interest, it’s the real thing. If you start to purr, it’s really serious.
You are a flexible earth sign and therefore can figure out how to please just about anyone — but who does it for you? If you find yourself willing to eat the barbecued shrimp in spite of your shellfish aversion, you’re cooked. Most of all, you’re in love when you don’t care at all whether you’re right — ever.
For a sympathetic, smart, and romance-loving air sign, you’re usually the first to know when you’ve met a great match. If your innate love radar is on the blink or if you have more than one amour to choose from, employ this very simple formula. Whichever love interest inspires the most outfit try-ons and shoe changes is the winner. Vanity is the road to relationship.
You’re an intense water sign who typically oozes sensuality. Lust is easy; love is hard. If you find that you’re OK with baring your soul or at least a tiny bit of your imperfect self, you can be sure this is more than a lust connection. Sharing is caring, especially for you.
As an adventurous fire sign, you’re either always in love or never in love, but either way, real love can be elusive unless you sit still for a second. When you meet someone who doesn’t mind your absences or, conversely, makes you want to stay put, you’re on the road to commitment. The ideal relationship incorporates both.
An emphatic believer in right versus wrong, you are the one sign that seriously goes weak at the knees when love is right. Perhaps you take the phrase literally. When you meet someone important, you will doubt all that you thought you knew. Of course, eventually you’ll realize you’re always right… but by then, you’ll be happy in love.
As an expansive, do-gooder air sign, your idea of love is probably more traditional than you’d let on. While you build utopias in your head and enjoy unpredictable behavior and inventiveness in your life, love is on its way.
As the most loving water sign in the stars, you spend more time thinking about love than most. But your romantic vision is better than romantic reality. When you meet someone who keeps you interested despite not knowing the script you’d written for your love scenes, you’re on your way to the best of both possible worlds.
Astro-coach Barrie Dolnick helps people find love and happiness by understanding their stars and their karmic energy. She is the author of twelve books, including
Simple Spells for Success, now in paperback.