True confessions, girls: Have you ever wondered what it might be like to kiss the lips of another woman? Ever woken from a lusty dream about a lady lover? Ever secretly mused about being, you know, intimate, with a girlfriend? If you whispered yes to any of these questions, you might just be bi-curious.
But, what does it mean?
Let's pretend you'd never in your whole life eaten anything but Italian food: Ziti, lasagna, manicotti — all perfectly tasty stuff. Nobody would raise an eyebrow if you eventually started wondering about the flavors of Indian, Chinese or French cuisine, right? So, a woman who's been with men and only men her whole life might, after a point, develop a curiosity about what else is out there, erotically speaking. Would a female paramour have a whole new take on lovemaking? What's it like to be in a romantic relationship with a woman? The bi-curious woman may choose to pursue her curiosities into the real world, or keep them tucked secretly into her own private fantasyland. It's entirely up to her — and it's nobody's business but her own.
Are all straight women bi-curious?
No, not necessarily. Woman-to-woman friendships are famous for deep emotional intimacy and tender physical affection. Heart connections and handholds between two girlfriends don't necessarily imply any sexual undercurrents whatsoever. It's a time-tested recipe for a genuinely close, and purely platonic, bond.
Is bi-curiosity just a fleeting fancy, or does it mean that deep down I'm really bisexual, or even lesbian?
It could be a passing reverie, or it could be the beginning of some big changes. According to the Kinsey Scale, a widely accepted measure of sexual orientation, very few people are strictly heterosexual, or exclusively gay. In fact, most people's sexual orientation falls somewhere along the spectrum in between the two absolutes, and it can change over time. Fantasies, dreams and curiosities may drift across gender lines, whether or not they are ever acted upon. In other words, most folks have at least some capacity for bisexuality at some point in their lives, be it in the imagination or in the bedroom. And it's perfectly normal.
But wait, I've always assumed I was straight!
And so you may be. But sisters, Sappho was no fool. Women are beautiful creatures. Who amongst the living can gaze upon the Venus de Milo and not be captivated by those callipygian curves? Add the sensuality and sensibility of a real live female, and you really can't blame a girl if she becomes a little intrigued from time to time.
So, it's all good?
Sexual orientation is not simply black and white, and it is not carved in stone. And bi-curiosity is just that: Curiosity. The musings of your erotic imagination are your own private business, and it's up to you to pursue a lifestyle and lovestyle that suits you. These days it's all about being true to yourself, being responsible and honest with others, and enjoying love, lust and life itself to the fullest.