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51 year old man | Saint Petersburg, FL, USA | Seeking men 35-55 within 3000 miles

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Never Married
Have kids:
Wants kids:
Probably not
Body type:
Athletic and toned
5'7" (170cms)
Christian / Protestant
No Way
Social Drinker
I am a totally grounded man with no identity...

In his own words

I am a totally grounded man with no identity issues. I accept my gayness but never flaunt it. I am masculine and look for the same in my partner. And my partner does not have to be in my city. I am relocatable if we get to that big question. Confident yet never cocky, I know I can learn a lot from the people I date. And I have no racial hang ups for I believe, all of us are equal in the eyes of the Creator. Chemistry is ultimately the judge of how well a relationship will thrive, not the color of your skin. I hope to fall in love again, having had a very good LTR for 16 plus years in the past. I am not afraid to love someone and accept his strengths and weaknesses. I am not afraid of commitment, honor, trust, and open communication. Passion and common interests will build the relationship and make it stronger. My biggest current interest is volunteer work. I helped to start a new After School program for underprivileged kids in St Pete (I love rambunctious kids but the neighborhood makes me sad when I see non-air conditioned houses and broken windows), and I am involved in a soup kitchen for the homeless. I love to cook! Some of my other interests include hiking, kayaking, running, gym, cooking (did I say that already?), gardening, bowling, tennis (I am hopeless at this!), reading and writing, music (I am the Bubble-Bernstein-Bach type of guy but if your music interests are different, it is not a big deal. I also have an academic/personal interest in spirituals), fine and performing arts, museums of all kinds, and travel (love train rides!), I work out at a gym and run 5Ks, I have a steady good job, I contact people on their birthdays, and my schedule is usually flexible to make time to see you. As a non drug user, light social drinker and responsible citizen, I hope to find the same qualities in my partner. With a good job, a home, car, and low debts, I am contented with life. But I do hope to enrich someone's life and make him happy as he will of me, I hope. Looking for a nice, non-perfect (but perfect for me!), guy who is fit, active (watching The Amazing Race on a marathon basis does not qualify!), and isn't overly busy (busy means in most cases, tied to the job 24/7) and can spare the time and effort to get to know me. I'm versatile in relationships. I can carry on conversations on a wide variety of topics. I am totally fine with taking it slow, but if you can only see me once a month, it's probably not going anywhere. If you are hesitant or are passive-aggressive in dating, it's unlikely we will match well. If you like to keep your options open all the time, you probably shouldn't be looking in these ads. I'm kind of sensitive to cigarette smoke, and no tolerance for drug use. If you want to see how we click, send me an email. I'll propose a few first-date options if I like your photos, and you can pick the one you like.

His interests

Book club , Camping , Coffee and conversation , Cooking , Dining out , Gardening/Landscaping , Movies/Videos , Museums and art , Music and concerts , Nightclubs/Dancing , Performing arts , Political interests , Religion/Spiritual , Shopping/Antiques , Travel/Sightseeing , Volunteering , Watching sports , Wine tasting

Sports & exercise

Aerobics, Bowling, Cycling, Dancing, Running, Walking / Hiking, Weights / Machines

I exercise 5 or more times per week.




I like Cats, Dogs

I used to have a cat for 16 years during the entire length of that 1st and only significant LTR.

Political views

Very Liberal

Favorite hot spots

Favorite places include Thai and Indian restaurants. Fav. place to visit so far has been England and would like to hit next Ireland.

Favorite things

Fav. food will be Chinese, Thai, and Indian, and also Italian. Colors I am into include green and blue. Fav. thing to do on a rainy day: curl up on a sofa with a book. Fav. TV show: Glee. Music: jazz, classical, opera, easy listening, some folk.

For fun

i love to cycle, go the gym (5 times a week), hike, long walks, cook dinners for friends, entertain, travel all over the world, and read a lot. Curling up on a sofa with a boyfriend or taking a walk with him on the beach is also a great pleasure.

Last read

I enjoy contemporary Native American literature. I guess it is a way to understand the "other" and yet, I am trying to understand myself as well through such works. The poems of Walt Whitman and Emily Dickinson capture my imagination as well.

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  Him What he is looking for
Height: 5'7" (170cms) 3'0" (91cms) to 8'0" (243cms)
Body type: Athletic and toned Slender, About average, Athletic and toned, Stocky
Eyes: Brown No preference
Hair: Black No preference
Smoke: No Way No Way, Occasionally, Daily, Yes, but trying to quit
Drink: Social Drinker No preference
Occupation: Education / Teacher / Professor No preference
I am in higher education management. I am an associate dean for a college; my job is to mediate disputes between students and faculty. I am always in the middle of the storm! Thankfully, I have an easy-going disposition
Income: I'll tell you later No preference
Relationship: Never Married No preference
Have kids: No No preference
Wants kids: Probably not No preference
Ethnicity: Asian No preference
I am of Chinese descent. I grew up in Malaysia, but have been in this country for 22 years. Yes, I feel very Americanized today, but I still practice certain Asian values including humility, soft speaking, and cultural sensitivity.
Faith: Christian / Protestant No preference
I usually attend the Episcopal Church. I find great acceptance there; there is no judgment.
Languages: Chinese, English, Other No preference
Education: PhD / Post Doctoral No preference
I was trained as a high school teacher. I majored in English and in graduate school, specialized in US history and East Asian Studies. I also learned American Sign Language (no, I am not deaf).
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